I know that I know what I am talking about. I’ve been involved with families and the financial or physical or emotional difficulties they face when experiencing the challenges that arise with aging loved ones for more than 15 years. That being said, it’s always nice….and in this case feels kinda cool….when one of my ideas is also expressed by an “expert.” And one that I’ve been reading since I was a child no less!
So, I was reading Dear Abby today in the Chicago Tribune, as I have done for years because I can’t seem to help myself, and came across the following entry:
This is the same advice I give in my book; Talking About the End is Only the Beginning, because even if you have been worrying about something for a long time it can be difficult to bring some topics up seemingly out of the blue to the folks you’re worried about.
Using the experiences of a third party can help.
Have you heard of the death of the loved one of a family friend, know of someone who has recently helped their parents downsize out of their family home after decades, had to make some difficult decisions on behalf of their parents because their parents can no longer make them on their own?
Using the experiences of others as conversation starters in your own family can serve in many ways. It may break the ice with your own loved ones and help approach a subject that is otherwise uncomfortable.
In the past few weeks I’ve had friends experience unexpected deaths of loved ones, the progression of dementia of a parent that has resulted in very challenging housing decisions that need to be made and the need for some minor surgeries having to be performed.
In addition to speaking to my parents about these events and our concern for our family friends, it brings about the opportunity to talk to them about how they would like the various details of these types of life-events handled if it were our family’s experiences.
What has happened in your world that you can see as a springboard to some much needed conversations with your own family?